These days, I consider myself an easy-going person and believe I have the ability to view both
angles on any situation prior to me making judgement or offering an opinion. I also reflect that I
wasn’t always like that and only within the last few years have I been more compassionate,
understanding and neutral on how someone speaks to me, about me, about someone else, or
I clearly remember though that when peri-menopause and up to a few years ago, it was very
possible for me to wake in a bad mood, or feel happy and fulfilled in one moment and then
depressed, anxious or angry in another moment with no obvious trigger or instigator. When these
emotions flickered from one extreme to the other many times a day, daily functioning with
confidence failed to exist.
When your body prepares for menopause anytime from around 40 to 50 years of age,
understanding that your own emotions may become hijacked, by you, allows you to be prepared to
face the demon head on when it surfaces.
Living in Yesterday’s Emotion
Too many find it hard to “let go” of a negative emotion that occurred a day, a week, a month or
even a year or two earlier. You might experience feelings like anger, frustration, irritability, rage
and resentment live within your heart and thoughts, causing you to feel symptoms within other
parts of your body which at the time, you may not realise are related. Symptoms such as an upset
stomach, stiff neck, body joint or muscle pain, headaches, low energy, depression, or even a
racing heart or chest pain.
Now you may not think a little negative emotion could be detrimental to you but in fact, it’s quite
toxic to your physical and mental state if prolonged, and this toxic trigger may be so hidden within
you, that you are not conscious that illness, emotional outbursts, withdrawal from interacting with
others, a loss of self-value, chronic anxiety, and more, is the result of you holding onto negative
Do you ever remember, as a child, saying things like: “That’s not fair”, “She said/he said…”,
“They’re picking on me”, etc? These are the foundation emotions that create the victim mentality
which can stay with you for your lifetime.
If no adult intervened at the time to teach you the skills needed to remove yourself from a negative
situation, or how to turn a negative into a positive, then the writing is etched on the wall for a
lifetime, or at least until you have the ability to empower your mindset to see people, situations and
yourself, more kindly and compassionately.
Having the ability as an adult, to step out of your inner child/adolescent self, and assess a situation
through adult eyes and reasoning, leads to emotional growth and freedom.
Listen To What Your Heart And Head IS Really Telling You
To live happily and free from deep set emotions, it is important to pay attention to, and consider
how you are really feeling in certain situations, or when around a person or people that change
If you are troubled by strong emotions ask yourself:
Why am I not feeling happy, comfortable, or at peace at this very moment?
What is the true and deep cause of my feelings?
How does this situation or this person make me feel?
Am I supressing a feeling that I feel uncomfortable expressing?
Aim to identify the real crux of why you have negative emotions. Take a few days to devote time to
this cause, and during this time, write down everything you can think of that stirs up negative
emotions deep from within you – whether it be a person, a place, an experience, or words said.
Stress is a situation that causes discomfort or distress and can be physical or emotional. But
setting aside physical stress for now, emotional stress may be slowly ruining your quality of life.
The human body is actually programmed to function well with a small amount of occasional stress.
This is when the body responds automatically to protect itself, so fight or flight is activated, the
situation is resolved or diverted, and the body returns to its’ normal state.
It’s chronic (long term) stress that is dangerous for health and wellbeing. When the body goes into
fight and flight, it releases the protective hormone cortisol. If cortisol hasn’t got the chance to
deplete, and it remains activated and at high levels within the body, the body is now at high risk of
long term detrimental side effects such as poor sleep, headaches, anxiety, depression, obesity..
When it comes to emotional stress, try to identify and challenge the thoughts or inner voices that
make you feel stressed. It can be helpful to:
If you are experiencing chronic stress levels, deep emotions or struggling with body image, there
are practical things you can do to help such as:
thought you are offering.
Remember, you are a very unique person with the power to control every part of your thinking,
emotions, actions and words.
Stay in the drivers seat of your life and aim to not surrender your vehicle keys to another person,
emotion, or inner voice. Don’t allow yourself to be the passenger on your life journey. You have
the power to reject emotional hijacking and stay in the drivers seat.
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